It’s not just you that’s confused.
The truth is that this pattern is confusing for women too.
We know that we need a man with integrity, a man who is kind, who can make us feel safe.
But somehow when we meet him, we’re not always sexually drawn to him.
We often wonder why we don’t feel attracted to him, when we know he’d be good for us.
Instead, we find ourselves falling for the typical “bad boy” that crosses our path.
We know from the very start that he’s going to hurt us, yet we can’t help obsessing over him.
And then we make the effort to either stay away or we decide to go ahead and play with fire.
Knowing quite well, that we’re going to get burned.
We obviously don’t want to get hurt.
We don’t want to keep making the same mistakes that are actually keeping us away from our ideal partner (because trust me, we know it’s not him).
We want - and need - a good, kind, respectful man.
But we still want to feel that special spark with him.
And we need the spark in order to connect; it’s how we’re wired.
After all, we all have primal urges.