Do I need to do anything to prepare for the session?
You don't need to do nor bring anything. I provide everything that's needed.
It’s good to take some time to reflect on your intention for the session. If possible, find time to center yourself and relax.
Please do not eat anything heavy before the session. Ideally have your last meal 1-2 hours before we meet. Also no coffee for at least 1 hour prior to the session (but ideally no coffee at all that day). Categorically no alcohol before the session. If you arrive under the influence of alcohol, the session will be cancelled with no refunds.
For a Lingam Massage, please come refreshed (it is also possible to take a shower right before the session in the location where we meet).
For the Sensual Journey, please wear shorts and T-shirt/top.
Are there any restrictions for after the session?
After the session, you want to give your physical and energy body time to rest and integrate. Drink a lot of water. Do not engage in any intense activities. Your body is very receptive after the session, so stay away from social media and news. If possible, do not shower or eat for 2 hours after the session. No additional body work or massage for at least 24 hours, and no coffee or alcohol for at least 48 hours after the session.
How far do we go in a session?
The sessions explore sensuality and may bring pleasure or even arousal. There may be heavy breathing, touch and body-to-body contact. We may hug each other, sit in an embrace (yab-yum) or I may touch you to help move your energy. Consent and your safety is essential so I always check in with you what you feel comfortable with. None of this should be confused with the invitation for more. This is a professional session. We do not engage in any sexual activities. I honor your boundaries and I ask you to honor mine.
There is an exception for a Tantric Lingam Massage (for men), that includes touch of genitals. However, even here, the boundaries are strictly honored.
Can I touch you or reciprocate in some way during the session?
This is your opportunity to relax and receive, without the need to reciprocate or do anything. The process is most effective if you fully surrender to the receptive state. The need to reciprocate is often an escape mechanism from going very deep. If you stay in your own experience you’ll be able to uncover deep, unconscious patterns, expand your body’s ability to feel pleasure and heal. This is your experience. My role is to hold space for you, guide you and create a safety container for you to go deep.
Will you be naked during the session?
No. I wear shorts and top in all the session.
Do I have to be naked?
First of all, nudity only happens if you feel comfortable with it and if it is aligned with the nature of the practice. In a traditional session, like a Sensual Journey, I ask you to wear shorts and a T-shirt/top. If we are working with touch and energy, I may ask you to be shirtless for some parts of the session. I occasionally do work with nudity, but this is all mutually agreed and would happen only after a few sessions together.
For MEN: the only time when you are fully naked is during a Tantric Lingam Massage.
Where does the session take place?
The session can happen at your place, however many of my clients prefer to book a hotel for the session to keep it confidential. This is absolutely ok, however please keep in mind that the hotel is covered by you.
Please keep in mind we need a private room with a double bed, as we need space for you to lie down.
Where can I meet with you?
I am based in South-East Asia, and I travel between Koh Phangan (Thailand), Bali (Indonesia) and Kuala Lumpur (Malaysia.) every few months. Once a year I come to Europe, visiting Poland, Berlin and London.
I am available to travel to work with you. In this case flights and hotel are covered by you (thank you for treating me).
What if I need our work to be confidential?
Confidentiality is of the utmost importance. This is not just for you - this is for me, too. I do not share nor publish my clients' names anywhere. I understand it's a delicate area of work and many people prefer to keep it just between the two of us. I honor that.
For high-profile clients, I welcome and fully support Non-Disclosure Agreements, with all the responsibility that it implies.
What if I get aroused?
This is natural, healthy and perfectly ok. When the sexual energy builds up, we work with it, moving it through the body.
What if I ejaculate (Tantric Lingam Massage)?
The power of a Tantric Lingam Massage lies in keeping all of the sexual energy in your body and then moving it. This keeps the energy from cumulating too much in your lingam and ejaculation. If, however, that does happen, it's ok. We are cultivation a healthy approach to our bodies and sexuality and there is no need to feel shame or guilt.
Wait, what is lingam? And yoni?
Lingam is a Sanskrit name for penis and means ‘symbol’ or ‘mark’. Yoni is a Sanskrit name for vulva, and means a ‘source’
Do you accept gift?
A lot of my clients ask me if they can bring a gift for me. If you would like to treat me or express your gratitude, I would be very happy to receive it. Please keep in mind I don't drink alcohol or eat refined sugar, so chocolates or a bottle of wine may not be the best :) However, I welcome gift cards, jewellery, flowers, crystals and anything that you would like to gift me.
Please keep in mind gifts are in no way required. I do not expect nor ask for them. This is only if you truly want to share something with me.
Is there any benefit to online coaching as opposed to in-person sessions?
When we work in private, we work with your body and your energy. But sometimes what is needed is to work with the mind. Sometimes it’s about seeing a different point of view, talking through the issues, and getting a clear action plan. This is where coaching can bring enormous results.