Lingam in Sanskrit means "wand of light" and is used to describe a penis. In Tantric philosophy, lingam is respected, adored and worshiped. A Tantric Lingam Massage is a life-changing experience for a man, offering a possibility of deep healing, pleasure and even full-body orgasms. It is a place of pure relaxation and enjoyment, when nothing is expected of you - something men rarely get to enjoy in our demanding society. On top of that, your lingam is connected to all the major organs in your body, so while receiving this massage, you are strengthening your physical body and health (in Chinese tradition, Lingam reflexology is believed to be stronger than hand or foot massage).
- boost of libido
- strengthening masculine energy (your natural polarity), your sense of authority, power and leadership
- experiencing full body orgasm
- healing sexual trauma from the body
- clearing sexual conditionings, such as shame and guilt
- re-sensitizing the body and penis
- erectile dysfunction
- premature ejaculation
- becoming multi-orgasmic
- releasing unexpressed feelings, such as anger, unworthiness or guilt from the body
- Introduction & intention setting
- Exploration of senses
- Full body massage
- Lingam massage
- Energy sublimation & expansion
- Cocooning - time to process and integrate
Introduction & intention setting
The session starts by a brief description of the process. I then guide you through a Tantric ritual of consecration and intention setting for the session. Then I invite you to lie down, relax and start your journey.
Exploration of senses
I begin by engaging the subtle layers of your body. using the Feather Touch, a shawl and a few other props, I invite your body to awake its fully capacity to sense. In this phase we activate your heart and we create a bridge between your Heart Chakra and your Sexual Chakra (without yet touching the genitals).
Full body massage
I then move to massaging your full body with oil (I use the best quality natural coconut oil). On the physical level, this allows your body to relax into pleasure. On the mental level, it quits your mind. And on energy level, it activates your primary and secondary Chakras (energy centers) and clears energy channels. This is needed, so later we can easily spread your sexual energy throughout the whole body. I massage both the back and the front of your body, but I don’t yet engage your lingam. This part is around 45-60 min.
Once your body is relaxed and open, we move the focus to your lingam. I offer you the gift of my full presence and admiration. All strokes are done with the uttermost love and respect for you lingam. I will use a variety of strokes, inviting you to experience new forms of touch. You may discover something new that feels very pleasant. This is an opportunity for you to move beyond the standard pattern of touching your lingam (either by your lover or yourself).
Energy sublimation & expansion
While I keep activating the energy of your lingam, I keep moving it outside of the genital area. Sexual energy is the most potent energy and when we spread it around your body, you may start laughing or crying. You may want to speak or scream. There can be some pain or discomfort, which is all welcome, as it gives an opportunity for profound healing. You may also experience a full body or energetic orgasm. There are no expectations nor agenda for this experience. And there is no wrong response. My aim is to hold space for you to experience yourself freely. This part is around 45-60 min.
Cocooning - time to process and integrate
As the session draws to a close, I invite you to lie down, giving your body an opportunity to fully integrate and evenly distribute the energy. This is also your time to tune into your body in its awake and activated state. I stay with you for support, ready to hold you and embrace you if you need this.
I guide you through a ritual to close the session. This is also the time for us to share about the experience.
* Please note I am dressed during the session and that there is no sexual interaction between us. Don’t mistake this experience for a “happy ending massage” or an “erotic massage”. Please read FAQ below to get clarity on what is included (and what is not) in a Lingam Massage session. It is very important that you come with the right intentions.
Do I need to do anything to prepare for the session?
It’s good to take some time to reflect on your intention for the session. If possible, find time to center yourself and relax.
Please do not eat anything heavy before the session. Ideally have your last meal 1-2 hours before we meet. Also no coffee for at least 1 hour prior to the session (but ideally no coffee at all that day). Categorically no alcohol before the session. If you arrive under the influence of alcohol, the session will be cancelled with no refunds.
Please come refreshed (it is also possible to take a shower right before the session in the location where we meet).
Are there any restrictions for after the session?
After the session, you want to give your physical and energy body time to rest and integrate. Drink a lot of water. Do not engage in any intense activities. Your body is very receptive after the session, so stay away from social media and news. If possible, do not shower or eat for 2 hours after the session. No additional body work or massage for at least 24 hours, and no coffee or alcohol for at least 48 hours after the session.
How far do we go in a session?
This is your experience. I am there to create a container for you to drop into your body, but I do not share that experience with you. The arousal and sensations you feel are yours, and not from or for me. There is no sexual interaction between us. This is a professional healing session, not an erotic massage. I honor your boundaries and I ask you to honor mine.
Can I touch you or reciprocate in some way during the session?
No. This is your opportunity to relax and receive, without the need to reciprocate or do anything. The process is most effective if you fully surrender to the receptive state. The need to reciprocate is often an escape mechanism from going very deep. If you stay in your own experience you’ll be able to uncover deep, unconscious patterns, expand your body’s ability to feel pleasure and heal. This is your experience. My role is to hold space for you, guide you and create a safety container for you to go deep.
Will you be naked during the session?
No. I wear shorts and a top in all the sessions.
Do I have to be naked?
Yes. I will guide you through a ritual of undressing and give you the needed space so you can feel comfortable.
What makes you qualified to offer such sessions?
Where does the session take place?
The session can happen at your place, however many of my clients prefer to book a hotel for the session to keep it confidential. This is absolutely ok, however please keep in mind that the hotel is covered by you.
Please keep in mind we need a private room with a double bed, as we need space for you to lie down.
Where can I meet with you?
I am based in South-East Asia, and I travel between Koh Phangan (Thailand), Bali (Indonesia) and Kuala Lumpur (Malaysia.) every few months. Once or twice a year I come to Europe, visiting Poland, Berlin and London and additionally a few other countries.
I am available to travel to work with you. In this case flights and hotel are covered by you (thank you for treating me).
What if I need our work to be confidential?
Confidentiality is of the utmost importance. This is not just for you - this is for me, too. I do not share nor publish my clients' names anywhere. I understand it's a delicate area of work and many people prefer to keep it just between the two of us. I honor that.
For high-profile clients, I welcome and fully support Non-Disclosure Agreements, with all the responsibility that it implies.
What if I get aroused?
This is natural, healthy and perfectly ok. When the sexual energy builds up, we work with it, moving it through the body.
What if I ejaculate?
The power of a Tantric Lingam Massage lies in keeping all of the sexual energy in your body and then moving it. This keeps the energy from cumulating too much in your lingam and ejaculation. If, however, that does happen, it's ok. We are cultivating a healthy approach to our bodies and sexuality and there is no need to feel shame or guilt.
Do you accept gifts?
A lot of my clients ask me if they can bring a gift for me. If you would like to treat me or express your gratitude, I would be very happy to receive it. Please keep in mind I don't drink alcohol or eat refined sugar, so chocolates or a bottle of wine may not be the best :) However, I welcome gift cards, jewellery, flowers, crystals and anything that you would like to gift me.
Please keep in mind gifts are in no way required. I do not expect nor ask for them. This is only if you truly want to share something with me.
Price: $1,000 USD for a 2-3 hours session